The garage where Maria Campai was killed by a 17 year old, in Viadana – Ansa
From “I felt like a foreign body”, confessed by the 17 year old who exterminated his family in Paderno Dugnano on 31 August, to “I don’t know why I did it”, said by the 16 year old who reduced his neighbor to death by hitting him with a baseball bat, last Tuesday in Cesano Maderno, until the end, alienating because: “I wanted to see what it felt like to kill.” This is the explanation given by the 17-year-old who killed Maria Campai, 42, after having had a relationship with the woman, contacted online, in Viadana, in the Mantua area. In all the latest news cases involving minors (and also in many crimes committed by adults, as in the case of Terno d’Isola, just to mention an extreme case, and the limit in this case is madness) the motive seems a pure formality.
For the psychologist and psychotherapist Matteo Lacini, president of the “Minotauro” Foundation of Milan and professor at the Milan-Bicocca University and the Catholic University of Milan «the fact that there is no motive in the classical sense, or in terms of cause – effect, does not mean that it does not exist.” «The motive is in the emotional aspect, which remains unexpressed and confined to a dynamic within the young person», claims Lancini.
Apparently lucid, without signs of repentance and without shedding a tear, collaborative, but at the same time detached in explaining to the investigators where to look for the body: «It’s there, under that plant, I hid it in that garden, under some leaves”. Even in the case of the latest young alleged murderer, a photocopy portrait of a person who does not want to show emotions seems to emerge. «Without going into the specific case, which will be the responsibility of the specialists who will interview this boy, we can say that when we find ourselves faced with a situation apparently without explanation, it is in the emotional and affective dimension that we must look for the reasons. Emotions that remain voiceless find expression in desperate actions; violent actions directed against others, and acts of self-harm, which are the majority, and of which there is an increase, even if they naturally do not have the same visibility as the former”, continues Lancini.
The young man stopped is a martial arts enthusiast and obsessed with physical fitness: «Being skinny all my life made me think about ending it, I couldn’t find a girlfriend (and I still can’t and I lost confidence in myself same). But the day I discovered the gym and started training and building muscle I kept going and have now been going to the gym for a year. I regret many things I’ve done, but going to the gym isn’t one of them,” he wrote on Tiktok. He posted a screenshot of a player who had chosen “Filippo Turetta” as his nickname at Fortnight. On the internet he searched: “How to neutralize a person with your bare hands.” Which, according to the first examination by the medical examiner, he would have put into practice in killing his victim. At the time of the crime, which took place in the garage equipped as a gym, the same evening as the woman’s disappearance, 19 September, her parents were at home and did not notice anything. His father described him as a “piece of bread”, his mother said he just studies. In the case of Paderno Dugnano, the absolute trust that the parent had for his son is proven by the dynamics of the massacre: he asked him to put down the knife and call 118, after he had already fatally struck his youngest son and his wife, and when the man bent down to help the latter he was also hit. The case of Cesano is different again, where even though the boy was not being treated, he apparently suffered from mental disorders.
«I always want to point out that I don’t talk about individual specific cases. But, based on my experience, the question I ask myself is: why is it that today in families, where, compared to the past, compared to our parents, to the older generations, children are certainly listened to more, young people also feel more alone?”, asks Lancini. «Be careful, we are not talking about disadvantaged families, but about so-called normal families. Well, the first response you hear is that teenagers are spoiled, that they don’t know how to get by on their own: that social media, the internet, etc. But these are stupid or superficial answers. I think that parents today listen… but only to what they want, and that doesn’t bother them. Therefore with the exclusion of the children’s authentic emotions, which are disturbing. Work and everyday life push us to this (non)selective listening. But this means pushing your children away, betraying the pact of trust with them. Which makes them (and us) lonelier and more fragile.”
2024-09-28 20:17:06